Attachment Parenting · Loved · Pregnancy

Pregnancy the Second Time Around

I love my daughter more than I ever thought possible, and I truly feel like I was meant to be a mom. With that said, I will admit that I really don’t enjoy being pregnant. The second trimester is okay, but the first and end of the third really were tough for me.

There are things I do love though… Feeling baby kicks. Maternity pants. Being treated more delicately. Having an instant get-out-of-almost-anything excuse when I don’t want to do something.

But, for the most part, I’m not a fan.

One evening, while about 10 weeks pregnant with our first daughter, I remember getting home after a long day at work, plopping on the couch, looking at my husband and saying “I’m never doing this again.”

I meant it too. I was miserable. Nauseous, exhausted, achy, irritable. I never wanted to be in that position again.

Fast forward two-plus years later, and I’m exactly in that position. And I remember exactly why I said I never would be again.

Being pregnant (for me) the second time around, is much like the first time. I have all the same symptoms. But, there are two distinct differences:

  1. I can’t just plop down on the couch and sleep for 12 hours this time because now I have an energetic toddler to care for.
  2. Everything happens earlier than it did the first time. I started showing a lot sooner – like at 9 weeks. During my first pregnancy, I managed to squeeze into my regular clothes for at least 5 months. After that, I just bought a few stretchy maxi-dresses and called it a day. This time, I already had a new maternity wardrobe by the end of my first trimester.

There is one more difference, and it’s a very important one. This time, I know what the reward is at the end of the pregnancy journey – a sweet, perfect, amazing little person that my family and I will love and cherish as long as we live.

I didn’t get it the first time. I knew I would love my baby. But I didn’t know it was even possible to love someone this much. I knew our priorities would have to change, and we wouldn’t be able to have the same kind of child-free social lives. But I didn’t realize how much I would rather be with my husband and daughter having family time than be with anyone else in the world.

The bottom line is this. Being pregnant (for me) is a pain in my ass – literally. But it is so worth suffering through for a precious new addition to the family. And 9 months really isn’t a long time in the grand scheme of things – although some days if feels like freaking forever!




3 thoughts on “Pregnancy the Second Time Around

      1. It’s funny, I always thought I would love pregnancy and dreaded childbirth. It turned out to be the exact opposite in real life! Hope you have an easy birth, can’t wait to see pictures of your little one!

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